Four Steps to Success

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If we understood the power of our thoughts,

we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words,

we would prefer silence to almost anything negative.

In our thoughts and words we create our own

weaknesses and our own strengths.

Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.

We can always replace negative with positive.

Bettie Eadie


Knowledge is power. We have gone through our lives believing that we are in control of our lives. As humans we have been given free will and free choice, which is contradicted by a belief that we are victims of circumstance. That our lives are controlled by an invisible fate.

We have yet to uncover the full potential of the human mind but as we evolve we are beginning to understand more and more of this incredible mechanism. The power of the conscious and subconscious allots each of us the authority to leverage the power of our mind to work in our favour.

Can you imagine what we could do with this knowledge? We would have the power to create the life of our choosing, carve out a path of intention, rather than the accidental, haphazard route many of us follow throughout our lifetime.

We have been raised to believe that we have free will and yet with knowledge I am learning that free will is an illusion. An illusion from the perspective from which we have been taught to see and appreciate the world.

Did you know that your subconscious mind makes a decision, 7 seconds before your conscious mind is every aware that there is a decision to be made? WOW! How can we possible be in control, have free will to make decisions if our lives are being controlled by our subconscious mind? Living our lives on autopilot does not fit the definition of free will.

Free will is only possible when we have control of our thoughts. If we are consciously aware of the choices we are making. If we have the knowledge that this is possible. Imagine the personal power we could have?

Much like the answer to a question, as mentioned above, your success has been predetermined by prior experiences. When you set a goal, your subconscious mind scans previous, similar experiences, and goes to work on predetermining your success. This is also true for how your day will unfold. How successful a big presentation will be? Or how a first date will play out over the course of the evening.

Our thoughts create our reality. This is scientific. It is physics. Your thoughts create a certain frequency or vibration. Because thoughts are energy, like attracts like. Because like attracts like whatever you spend your time thinking about will manifest in your reality.  You only need to hold a thought for 17 seconds in order to initiate the attraction process.  68 seconds later BAM!  Your thoughts are creating your reality.


Like attracts like.

Whatever the conscious mind thinks and believes, the subconscious identically creates.

Brian Adams


Have you ever wondered why you tend to repeat the same experiences over and over? We tend to repeat the same story in our heads daily and without knowledge of this fact, we do not have the power to change our reality.

First, I would like to suggest that you try Emmet Fox’s The 7 Day Mental Diet. Attempt to go 7 full days without having a negative thought. If you are aware of a negative thought you have 8 seconds to reverse that thought to a positive. If successful you may continue with your diet. If 8 seconds have passed you must return to day one and begin again. This is an excellent exercise in awareness, as awareness is the first step to change.

Secondly, your subconscious mind learns through repetition and so to form a new habit you must choose something that you would like to incorporate into your life and repeat it daily, for weeks, in order to replace your self-sabotaging habit with a more helpful, supportive habit. For many of us this is hard mental work and many of us find it difficult to maintain. Your old thoughts and old blueprint did not manifest overnight but were created in this exact manner. Through repetition, you learned how you thought the world operated. With this knowledge you have the power to enact change in your life.

Thirdly, you must set a firm goal that you would like to reach. The how is not as important as knowing what you want and how it feels to have achieved this. Emotion is the oil to your engine and enthusiasm raises your vibration. The higher your vibration, the easier it is to attract the kind of life you have, in the past, been wishing for.

And finally you need to see this goal as if it has already happened. In order to leverage the power of our subconscious mind you must see, feel, and be grateful for this goal over and over and over. Several times a day you should look at your written goal (it is not real if it is not written down), say your goal aloud with enthusiasm, feel the emotions attached to your successful achievement of that goal. Play it over and over in your mind as a movie that has already been made.

It is important to note that your subconscious mind does not know the difference between real or imaginary, however it has the ability to make dreams comes true. It will work effortlessly to bring to fruition your desires and so you must be conscious of your thoughts at all times.

Once you have the knowledge of how to leverage your mind you have the power to determine your success. Our lives are not dictated by fate. We are not victims of circumstance but rather a product of our daily thoughts. If you believe, at the bottom of your heart, that the world is unsafe your life experiences will support that belief. If you believe, at the bottom of your heart, that the world is safe and supportive your thoughts will support that belief.

In order to leverage your mind in your favour you also must align your value system with your beliefs, otherwise you will experience an internal conflict and be disappointed with your results.

You see successful people don’t have any leg up over any of us. The only difference is they approach their goals with laser focus and a burning desire. They have a written plan of action that they do not stray from. They hold onto a positive mental attitude and surround themselves with positive , support people.


Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you;

be careful the friend you choose for you will become like them.

Clement Stone