In this guest blog I am sharing the wisdom of Brad Whitehorn, Associate Director at CLSR Inc. I hope you find this blog helpful.
“Quick favour” is one of those phrases, like “brief meeting” or “just one more episode,” that almost never means what it says. Some people perk right up while others start mentally bracing for impact. A few see an exciting opportunity, others see their plans flying out the window, and some are already halfway to saying “yes” before they even know what they’ve agreed to. However you react, those five words have a way of showing your unique style for dealing with life’s little curveballs.
For Authentic Blues, their gut reaction is to help where they can; they don’t even need the details before saying yes. “Of course! Anything for you,” comes out almost automatically, and they truly mean it. Deep down, there’s just a tiny hope the favour doesn’t involve moving a piano… or a llama. But even if it does, they’ll show up, probably with snacks, moral support, and a bunch of encouragement. For Authentic Blues, helping out the people they care about is just part of who they are.
Inquiring Greens, on the other hand, have a very different first thought: “I need more information before I commit; what’s the actual scope here?” It’s not that they’re against helping, far from it, but they like to know exactly what they’re signing up for. Out loud, they’ll probably respond with like, “Sounds good, what exactly are you asking for” It’s their way of being both willing and informed.” Inside, though, the commentary is a little more colourful; they’re wondering if this person’s definition of “quick” comes from the same people who call IKEA instructions “easy.” Inquiring Greens like clear boundaries, and a vague request feels like being handed a half-finished puzzle with no picture on the box.
Organized Golds shift into logistics mode almost instantly. Their brain runs a quick checklist; what’s already booked today, how long will this take, and where does it fit in? Out loud, it might sound like, “Of course… but when exactly do you need it done?” delivered in that calm, capable tone that inspires confidence. Inside, though, they’re already mapping out the ripple effects on the rest of their carefully planned day. If this so-called “quick” favour derails their schedule, it’ll take a stack of sticky notes and a revised to-do list to get things back on track. Organized Golds will still help, just in the most organized, structured way possible.
Resourceful Oranges react as if someone has just handed them an invitation to an adventure. “Finally! Something unexpected to break the routine!” flashes through their mind before the question is even finished. They’ll likely say, “Absolutely! When do we get started” with genuine enthusiasm. Secretly, they’re hoping this favour involves a road trip, power tools, or, ideally, a story they can someday tell their future grandchildren; probably with a few dramatic extras thrown in. If it comes with a bit of chaos or an element of surprise, even better for Resourceful Oranges.
None of these reactions are better or worse, they’re just different ways of processing the same request. Authentic Blues say yes because helping others matters more than anything; Inquiring Greens need details to feel confident they can deliver; Organized Golds make sure it won’t throw their world into chaos; and Resourceful Oranges jump in because they love a good twist in the day.
If you’re the one doing the asking, knowing these differences can make all the difference. Appreciate the generosity and willingness to help that comes from Authentic Blues; give Inquiring Greens the full picture up front so they can feel confident saying yes; let the Organized Golds know exactly when and how so they can fit it into their schedule; and for Resourceful Oranges, highlight the fun or adventurous parts so they can get excited about jumping in. Whether ask results in a road trip, a spreadsheet, or a helping hand, one thing’s for sure, a “quick favour” is more than a simple ask.
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