What You Need to Know About Coronavirus and Grief
In this guest blog I am sharing the wisdom of, Allison James, from The Grief Recovery Institute. I hope you find this blog helpful.
If you’re grieving the news and events surrounding Coronavirus you’re not alone.
Whether you’re upset that your vacation has been cancelled or have been quarantined (mandatory or not), make no mistake about it, people all over the world are grieving.
Most people associate grief with death and death alone. And while death is certainly a loss, there are many other life events that can produce feelings of grief related to COVID-19.
A big one is loss of safety.
It can be scary when everything we are familiar with changes.
- You might be one of the tens of millions of people around the world under quarantine, so almost all of your daily habits and routines have changed.
- Maybe you’re worried about the well being of your parents, children and your own health and safety.
- If you’re older or have health problems, and are following Centers for Disease Control guidelines, you probably are staying indoors.
- You could be socially distancing yourself from friends and family so as not to expose them or yourself.
- Special vacations that you planned for have been cancelled as well as numerous concerts, business events and church.
- It can be shocking to see that things that were a given in our daily lives have shut down like schools, the NBA and even Disney World.
- Maybe you’re working from home and miss the camaraderie of your co-workers.
- Celebrities we know and love, like Tom Hanks, have tested positive for Coronavirus.
- Maybe it’s causing strife in your relationship because you and your significant other don’t agree on how to prepare for COVID-19.
- Have you lost faith in your government, employers and even god?
- Maybe you’re worried about friends in Italy, our first responders or our healthcare system.
- You could be worried about the future of your job, how to take care of your kids and how you’re going to pay your bills.
- There’s also general sadness for our community.
Many things we accept as normal have been turned upside down. This leaves many of us, myself included, feeling like there’s an uncertain future.
How is this grief?
- Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss of any kind.
- Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.
- One way to describe grief is that it’s like reaching out for something that is familiar, only to find that when we need it one more time, it’s no longer there.
- When we grieve, we grieve the loss of unmet hopes, dreams and expectations.
Don’t these definitions apply to at least one, if not all of the situations above?
How do you know you have unresolved grief?
- Are you eating more or not eating much at all?
- Is it hard for you to focus on simple tasks?
- Are you sleeping more or sleeping less?
- Are you irritable with your significant other?
- Does the COVID-19 pandemic remind you of other losses?
- Are you avoiding talking about Coronavirus by making jokes or changing the subject because you’re uncomfortable?
- Are you practicing Short Term Energy Relieving Behaviors (STERBs) like shopping, excessive exercise or drinking?
I used to gamble, shop and eat to avoid my feelings. Guess what? It worked! They distracted me short term, but didn’t help me long term. I was simply using the wrong tools. The Grief Recovery Method gave me effective tools that are proven to work. They can work for you too.
Can you relate?Have you tried talking honestly about your fears only to be told that you’re living in fear? I don’t know about you, but when I see people making fun of Coronavirus online or have been told that I’m overreacting, it doesn’t make me want to be vulnerable about my feelings.
What can you do?
Find someone safe to talk to. And be safe for others to talk to.
Go first. Tell the truth about yourself, so other people feel comfortable to do the same.
Listen and talk without judgement, criticism or analysis. That goes for judging yourself too.
If you’ve participated in any of our Workshops, Grief Support Groups, or read our books then you’ve done the work and have the tools. That doesn’t mean you’ll never grief. All people do! But you know how to go first and be honest with others. If you need someone to talk to try reaching out to someone you met in your Grief Recovery Workshop.
Grab a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook and browse our blogs for more tools and helpful information.
Please know that grief is normal and natural during these times. Even if you don’t know someone who has died from COVID-19 it’s touching many of our lives in many different ways.
Our hearts go out to everyone.
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Canadian Grief Recovery Method Specialist, Tammy Adams loves to problem solve, inspire and motivate others who are ready and committed to change. Tammy has spent over 30 years in the field of education and as a Certified Life and Executive Coach Tammy teaches individuals to challenge and conquer their limiting beliefs and insecurities to create the life of their choosing. As a Grief Recovery Method Specialist Tammy understands that unresolved grief can limit an individual’s capacity for happiness and is gifted at supporting individuals through the pain and isolation cause by an emotional loss, of any kind, to a place of happiness they believed no longer existed. Tammy’s clients say, “Tammy helped me unpack the baggage and put a smile on my face in the process. It’s a rare quality for someone to fully listen without judgement but yet still steer you in the right direction.”
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